Surrogacy: What Happens After Birth
Congratulations! Your surrogacy baby has been born. This is a very special moment in your life! You may be wondering what happens now? Surrogacy is a similar process to traditional pregnancy after the child is born. This blog will look at what happens after your surrogacy baby is born!
The Delivery Room
Most intended parents ask to be in the delivery room with their surrogate while their baby is being born. At Simple Surrogacy we discuss this step during the initial matching process. We choose to bring this up before the process begins because if it is important to the intended parents to be in the room during the delivery but the surrogate is not comfortable with that then the match would not work out. There may be times during the labor that your surrogate may want to be alone to rest and relax. If they do not feel comfortable asking you to leave, we provide them with the option to talk to the coordinator who will alert you to this. We ask that our intended parents don’t take offense if they are asked to leave the room temporarily. Labor can be a long process that is filled with emotions. If you are asked to leave the room take the chance to go and get some food, call friends and family, or even just take a walk! If while you are gone the process moves forward we will call you immediately. If something happens and the surrogate needs an emergency c-section then it is up to the surrogate and the hospitals policy about how many people can be in the room. This is something that would be discussed and determined if it happened. We know that emotions will be high but we hope that you can be understanding and put all your thoughts towards the birth of your happy and healthy bundle of joy!
Every hospital has a different policy in regards to the legal aspects of a birth. We will ensure that the hospital has all of the paperwork and that they can either put your names on the birth certificate or fill out the required paperwork so that you can file for a post-birth legal process. Prior to the birth of your child we will go over all of the paperwork so that you know what you will be signing and when you will be receiving all of the official legal documents for your child. To obtain the birth certificate you will need to contact the Bureau of Vital Statistics. Most birth certificates will be mailed to you between 4 and 8 weeks after your child is born. If you need this expedited, or if you child was born in Texas, we can help you get it sooner.
After birth, most babies are able to leave the hospital within 3 days. At this point you will be able to bring your baby home! If you are traveling far we can help you decide whether or not you should travel by plane or by car. If you are traveling outside of the country we can assist you in obtaining your babies passport and all the required documents for them to travel with you. Hospitals will not allow you to leave the hospital without a car seat so it is important that you bring one with you. It is also important that you bring other items for your baby such as clothes, pacifiers, bibs, and more.
Your Surrogates Family
Since all surrogates must have given birth to at least one child before becoming a surrogate, they will have children of their own. It can be good for the surrogates children to meet your child so that they have an easier time understanding what is happening and where the baby is going. This is something that we ask that you discuss prior to the delivery so that both sides are aware of what will happen.
At the hospital we always try to arrange for the intended parents to have a seperate room with their baby. This gives the intended parents a chance to bond with their baby and a chance for the surrogate to rest and recover after the delivery.
Contact with the Baby
From the moment that you contact us and tell us that you are interested in having a child through surrogacy, we will tell you how important it is for the surrogate to have contact with the child after they are born. This is only if the surrogate would like. We know that they are not genetically attached to the child but they carried the baby throughout the entire process and gave birth to them. We ask that you show them how happy you are with the baby. This will show them that the baby is in good hands and will help her to adjust to life after pregnancy. If the surrogate is about to be discharged and has not seen the baby she will contact the coordinator to let you know.
Contact with your Surrogate
We understand that when you bring home your baby that you will be busy adjusting to life at home. Even though you are busy it is still very important to keep in contact with your surrogate. Your surrogate has completed an extraordinary feet for you and she is still dealing with hormones and emotions after the pregnancy. You contacting her and keeping her up to date on how the baby is doing can provide her with a sense of ease that cannot come from anywhere else. Most surrogate agreements state that the intended parents will send pictures for at least one year after the surrogacy. We ask that you send pictures as soon after and as frequently as you can. It will show the surrogate that the process she went through helped create a loving family.
Final Compensation and Expenses
Within 5 to 7 business days after the child is born, your surrogate will receive her final compensation and expenses. As she starts to receive the medical bills from the hospital these bills will be sent to Kristen Hanson. She will make sure that all accounts are paid and close and then the remaining escrow funds will be refunded.
If you are working with a surrogate, or thinking about doing so, our team can help! Simple Surrogacy provides all of our clients with a dedicated coordinator who is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They can help answer any of your questions and prepare you for the day you bring home your baby!