Rene (26) and Mark (30) had had three healthy pregnancies and delivered three healthy babies, and though they felt happy and blessed, they believed God had more for them to offer. Rene loved being pregnant, and her doctor had referred to her as a “textbook” patient. She began to feel as if God was leading her to be a surrogate mother for a husband and wife who were fertile, yet unable to bring a pregnancy to term, due to health issues.
“I watched an episode of The Little Couple, where they hired a Surrogate and I thought to myself, these are really wonderful people. A married husband and wife who love each other and would make amazing parents and don’t struggle with fertility. The only thing holding them back is her physical restrictions (i.e. size, in this case) that prevent her from being able to carry a healthy pregnancy. I thought I could totally do this for people! I carry children very well and I would love to help people like that. It was at that point that I talked to Mark about it and he told me that he would support me no matter what, he loved me, and if I felt that God had laid it on my heart, I should do some more research on it,” Rene explained.
Seeking information about surrogacy, Rene went online to research the process and eventually, after consultation with her husband and much prayer, chose to work with the Simple Surrogacy agency and Fort Worth Fertility clinic. After submitting an application and subsequent approval, Rene reviewed profiles to find “Intended Parents” who met her own criteria for acceptance.
“I began to pray very fervently for a very specific couple. God had laid it on my heart that I was looking for a married husband and wife that couldn’t have children for medical issues. Somehow I just knew that I would know who it was when I saw them. I read through a couple of profiles before Steven and Marie’s came across my desk and immediately I told Mark, ‘I really like them. I’d like to talk to them if possible.’ Mark had read through the profiles with me and we had both agreed that based on my criteria, that they were exactly what I had been praying for…” The agency “…gave my Intended Parents my profile and gave me theirs.” Both couples agreed to meet.
“They had specific criteria they were looking for,” said Rene, “and I had what I was looking for. For them, I believe it was a stay-at-home mom. For me, it was a married husband and wife that couldn’t have children for medical reasons and refused to terminate for any reason, and I preferred them to be Christians. What stood out about Steven and Marie to me was that they fit all of my criteria. They were Christians, which was something I was really focused on…”.
“We talked on the phone for a phone interview; I picked them; they picked me and, Voila! Here we are today,” said Rene. “I had prayed all along that if there was a reason that God felt that I was being selfish and that this was not my path to please put a stumbling block in my way and to give me the peace to understand that this was just not His will.”
Believing God is ordering her steps, Rene is also excited about the fact that her Intended Parents are from Germany because she too, claims German roots. “…they lived in Germany, so we had that in common because I’m part German, I speak German and I went to Germany as a foreign exchange student in high school for 3 weeks and I really, really loved it there,” said Rene.
Explanation of this undertaking, that to Rene is more like a mission, has yielded a variety of responses from family and friends. “For my kids I was just very honest. I told them that Steven and Marie could not have a baby by themselves and that they needed someone to carry their baby for them and that Mommy was going to be that person; but I assured them that it was not our baby and that once the baby was born, we would not get to bring it home. My five-year-old really gets it. She knows that the medicine I take is for the baby and she asks me every morning if I’ve taken my ‘baby medicine.’ She tells all of her friends very excitedly how I’m taking these medications to help Steven and Marie have a baby. She’s very excited about it.”
“As far as reactions from my friends and family members go, my friends have been for the most part, extremely positive. I’ve received lots of kind words from my friends and most of them seem to think it’s great. My Mom and Sister have been an incredible support system. They think what I’m doing is amazing. There have been members of my family who have expressed their dislike of what I am doing. One of my family members actually made the comment “I hope you haven’t told anyone.” Originally it really hurt my feelings. I just didn’t understand how they couldn’t understand what I was trying to do… Now their comments don’t really phase me. I wish they were more supportive, but the fact of the matter is that everyone is just not going to support everything I do and that’s ok with me, because at the end of the day I’m the one who has to live with myself, not them. As long as my husband and my children are ok with my decisions, I’m good,” said Rene.
She explained that the Intended Parents have tried unsuccessfully, more than once, to carry their own pregnancy. For Rene, this is a labor of love, literally. “The amount of excitement I feel for them is immeasurable. They are so in love and it’s toxic. You can’t help but feel the love between them when you’re around them and I know that a child is just going to multiply that love. Over the years they have experienced heartbreak with trying to get pregnant on their own and we all feel that we were put in each other’s paths by God. I cannot wait to see them become parents and I pray to God that this process results in a successful, healthy pregnancy for them.” When asked if she and her family plan to stay in communication with the Intended Parents, Steven and Marie, and the baby, Rene answered, “Yes. Absolutely.”
After weeks of hormone therapy injections to prepare Rene to carry her Intended Parents’ previously frozen embryo, the transfer will take place May 1. The clinic will monitor her closely. Ten days after transfer Rene will go in for Beta testing to determine the HCG levels in her blood, which will reveal if she is indeed, pregnant. Provided everything goes smoothly, the surrogate mother is expected to be released to her Obstetrician’s care within a few weeks after a successful transfer.
Simple Surrogacy Co-Owner and Executive Program Director Stephanie Scott said, “I am thrilled to have Rene in our program. She is compassionate, generous, detail oriented, has a wonderful family of her own and truly cares about the life she is helping create and the lives of those she is going to bless forever. This is exactly the kind of person we hope to engage as a surrogate.”
In the 13 years Simple Surrogacy has been in business, more than 350 babies to date have been born because of their program. “For me,” said Scott, “there is no better job on the planet I could be prevailed to do. I touch lives and create them with a BIG help from the wonderful women who choose to become surrogate mothers through my program. Sometimes people need a helping hand to realize their dreams of becoming parents. That’s where I and the generous women around the country step in. For those who have never been a surrogate or been on the receiving end, it is hard to create a picture of why these women do what they do. When you are laying back waiting for your first ultrasound and your Intended Parents are holding your hand in tears waiting to find out whether or not they have a baby on the way, it does something to you. All of their hopes and dreams become your hopes and dreams for them. The vulnerability comes out and all you want to do as a surrogate is make it happen for them.”
Parenthood is a desired dream for many individuals and couples. Whether you started your family the traditional way or started with some assistance, you are a parent no matter what. For those who want to start a family of their own and are thinking about surrogacy, Simple Surrogacy is the right surrogate agency for you. Founded in 2002 we serve to assist couples and individuals that desire to achieve a family through third party assisted reproduction.
We understand that this is an emotional, personal and exciting time for you, and we can promise that choosing our agency for your surrogacy process is the right choice!
What Would Be Your Experience with Simple Surrogacy?
At Simple Surrogacy you are not just a client, you are a friend. We take the time to hear the story of each individual or couple that comes to us and ensure that your experience with us is as personal and special as possible. Being one of the biggest surrogacy and egg donation agencies in the United States, you can ensure that we have the experience, knowledge, and connections for a seamless process.
At Simple Surrogacy, we match recipients and donors quickly. Finding your perfect surrogate match is the first step of your journey with us. We are proud to say that we have one of the largest databases of available surrogates, and with so many applicants it is crucial that we go through the right steps to ensure each potential surrogate meets all of the requirements. At Simple Surrogacy we take finding the perfect candidate very seriously. Each individual is screened, background checked, financial checked, and criminal checked, which includes a psychological screening by a mental health professional.
Simple Surrogacy provides professional coordination throughout your journey with us. We will be with you every step of the way throughout the entire process. We work closely with your medical clinics to ensure that your surrogate and egg donor arrive at their appointments on time and our coordinators check on your surrogates weekly to ensure that the pregnancy is progressing well. You can rest peacefully at night knowing that we are available 24/7 if any problems were to arise, and that we will be there to help resolve them. We will create a very smooth, easy, and stress-free journey.
Working with Simple Surrogacy you can expect a professional relationship with clinics. We have relationships with top IVF clinics in the U.S. and can offer preferred rates at these clinics to clients.
Why Choose Simple Surrogacy
At Simple Surrogacy we have the credibility to back up our agency and services. We have been nationally recognized in the press and have been featured in a number of articles that appeared in USA Today, The LA Times, CBC National news radio, Dallas Child Magazine, and more.
Beyond being a credible agency, we also have an advantage by being located in Dallas, Texas. Being located in Dallas, Texas allows us to work easily across the country. We work with anyone who is located in a state where surrogacy is legal. We also work with international couples or individuals. If you are looking to start a surrogacy journey and are located in another country, we will work with you and guide you throughout the entire process. No matter where you live, with Simple Surrogacy you will have the support, attention, and professional guidance you necessary for a successful surrogacy experience, and will be able to achieve your parenthood dream in any state or country!
We Make your Experience a Positive One
At Simple Surrogacy we understand that every individual or couple has their own unique situation when entering this experience. We promise that we will be there to guide you throughout the whole process, from start to finish. From finding you a surrogate mother, to the final months leading up to the birth, we will provide you with anything and everything that you need.
Tips From Us Before You Start This Journey
Choosing to go through and experience the surrogacy process is an incredible and worthwhile decision. However, before you commit to it, you should prepare yourself for this journey. Here are some things to prepare for:
- Keep an open mind about this process. You may have your doubts at first, but that is why there are agencies out there like us to make you feel comfortable about the process, and offer you the proper guidance you will need.
- Ask questions. It is important to ask any questions you may have about this process, to fully understand how surrogacy works. Visit our FAQ page to read about some frequently asked questions.
- Feel comfortable and confident in knowing that another woman will be carrying your baby, and will be on this journey with you.
- Lastly, have trust in your agency. At Simple Surrogacy, we have years of experience and a number of successful surrogacy stories to show that with Simple Surrogacy you will have a positive experience.
Your Surrogate Mother
Choosing surrogacy means that there will be a significant addition to your family. The surrogate mother carrying your child is now the third member of this process, and it is up to you, the Intended Parents, to work as a team. Many Intended Parents find that they do in fact have a positive relationship with their surrogate and that their relationship stays strong even after the journey is over.
Surrogacy relationships require strong communication and empathy from both parties. The Intended Parents need to show empathy towards the surrogate mother, as she will have worries and questions of her own regarding the process. On the other hand, the surrogate has to understand that the Intended Parents don’t have control over the pregnancy, which may become difficult at times. Trust is very important throughout this journey and if problems do arise, that’s why we are here.
We are here to solve any issues and help both sides. We support Intended Parents in order for them to achieve their dreams of parenthood and we also strive to make this process positive and seamless for the surrogate, in hopes that they would want to take part in a surrogacy process again one day.
A Personal Story
Dr. Evan Goldstein and his partner Andrew Yu are excellent examples of a successful surrogacy journey with Simple Surrogacy. Evan and Andrew have twin boys, Phoenix and Sebastian, who they had through surrogacy. They live in the Upper West Side of Manhattan and could not be happier with their little family. Living in Manhattan, Evan and Andrew knew it was going to be difficult to raise children in such a lively city, and they were right. Not only is it hard to raise kids in a fast paced environment, but raising kids in general is hard work. Just like parents who had their children the traditional way, these parents have the same struggles and parenting hurdles to overcome that all parents have when they become parents and start raising their kids.
Evan and Andrew do an excellent job teaching their children about staying humble, despite their high class lifestyle. They also teach them about proper values and morals, as all parents do. What their story teaches us is that no matter if you started your family the traditional way, or by using surrogacy, your family is still your family despite the path you took to parenthood.
Simple Surrogacy brought Evan and Andrew’s family together and gave them the gift of parenthood and the gift of life. To read more about Evan and Andrew’s family and lifestyle visit Gays with Kids and read their story, “Raising Grounded Kids is Crazy Manhattan”.
Let Simple Surrogacy be your guide on your journey to surrogacy. There is nothing that makes us happier than creating a Family and impacting a couple’s or individual’s life in a positive way.
Since childhood, many of us grow up with the aspirations and hopes of starting a family of our own one-day. Whether you are in an LGBTQ relationship, must face your infertility, or are taking an alternative path to parenthood – you may have a few concerns when it comes to surrogacy.
Surrogacy is a big commitment. Not only for the surrogate mother but also for the intended parents. As a surrogate mother, you are committing to carrying a child for another couple who is unable to have a child of their own. When a woman signs the agreement to become a surrogate, she is doing so with the intention of passing along the child she is carrying to another couple, after the nine month pregnancy period.
In surrogacy, just like any pregnancy, an emotional bond will be formed. Surrogates carry a baby in their womb for nine months, so it is inevitable that the surrogate mother may develop some level of attachment. From feeling the baby’s movement and witnessing its development, there is really no denying the special bond that these women share with the baby they are carrying inside of them, during this period. Especially in the case of traditional surrogacy, there is a much stronger bond with the baby since the surrogate shares a biological bond as well. However, regardless of the undeniable bond that is formed, the surrogate must always remember the whole purpose of their decision to become a surrogate – to help another couple have a family of their own.
Intended Parents’ Fear
Many intended parents may be skeptical of using surrogacy to grow their family. Many of these couples fear that the woman carrying their child for this nine-month period may change her mind and decide she no longer wants to give the baby up, and will leave and raise the child as their own.
Change of Mind
These women tend to feel a strong sense of attachment, especially after spending so much time with the baby. They may feel as if they have the right to keep the child. Going through the hardships of bearing a child for almost a year, some surrogates feel that they are actually deserving of the baby. Regardless of any biological connection, by law, a woman is technically referred to as a child’s mother if she has carried the baby since conception. There have been a few cases in which a surrogate mother has changed her mind and has made the decision to instead keep the child as her own. Although unfortunate, after sometime during the pregnancy, the surrogate mother may come to the realization that she eventually must hand over the baby to be raised by another couple. They may become overwhelmed with a wave of emotions, which can oftentimes result in anger, sadness, and confusion.
Attachment to the Family
As mentioned earlier, during the nine months of gestation, there is no doubt that the biological mother begins to bond with and becomes emotionally attached to the baby that is growing inside of her. In a surrogacy relationship, chances are that the surrogate is not the only person, other than the intended parents, who are invested in the pregnancy. The surrogate mother may be in a committed relationship, have a husband or partner, and children of her own. This means that these individuals in the lives of the surrogate are also likely to find themselves becoming emotionally attached to the baby. Although love and support are required in a surrogacy agreement, emotional attachment from family members and loved ones can also cause the enforcement of the agreement to be even more difficult and challenging to accept.
Feelings and the Law
Surrogacy is not equally enforceable in all states. This can mean that more problems can arise if the surrogate has the legal option to keep the baby. Depending where you live, this can mean that intended parents have no legal right to claim the baby as their own. Ultimately, this can complicate the decision making process, especially for a surrogate who can no longer bear the thought of giving up the child.
Relationship Between Surrogates and Intended Parents
When you enter into a surrogacy agreement, it becomes a mutual partnership. Surrogate mothers do not have to go through this experience alone. They work alongside the intended parents, and a relationship is often formed. Finally being able to hand over the baby is not only the beginning of a new extended family, it can also be the beginning of a new friendship. In many instances, intended parents choose to have a relationship with their surrogate following the pregnancy, in which they have an open line of communication. From phone calls to letters, pictures to occasional visits, depending on the status of your relationship with your surrogate this may be something you want to consider.
About Simple Surrogacy
At Simple Surrogacy, we completely understand and relate to your longing to become parents. As women, and a 95% female stuff, we can definitely relate to the journey and experience in having a baby that no man can fully understand. We understand your concerns about surrogacy from an insider’s perspective, and we want to make your experience as easy and wonderful as possible! Making the decision to resort to surrogacy can be long and difficult. We know how stressful and confusing the surrogacy process can be, and it is our goal as an agency to make the entire thing simple.
Why We Are Different
What makes Simple Surrogacy different from other agencies is the Texas Advantage. Being located in the state of Texas allows us to offer many different advantages to our clientele, with the foremost advantage being cost. Moreover, Texas laws hold that the donating party, in this case the surrogate, automatically gives up all the rights and obligations to any future created child from their genetic material, and with this there is no need for any court validation or any additional adoption procedures to occur. This means that once a child is born from surrogacy, the surrogate releases all rights and obligations as their parent and must hand over the child to the intended parents once the birth occurs.
What Happens If Your Surrogate Changes Her Mind
Unfortunately, there are rare situations in which the surrogate changes her mind before the contracts are actually signed. At Simple Surrogacy, we conduct an intense screening process to reduce the chances of this from occurring. However, if this happens to you, we will re-match you immediately at no additional charge.
How We Prevent Instances of This From Occurring
At Simple Surrogacy, in order to become a surrogate, a woman must go through a list of requirements to ensure she is fully qualified. Not only must she go through screening, a background check, and a medical review, she must also make sure she is old enough to legally enter into a contract and can fully understand the terms and conditions of the agreement. We also require surrogate prospects to have had given birth to a child of their own and that they pass a vigorous psychological screening.
Bringing a child into the world for someone else is an experience that cannot compare to anything else. It is an indescribable feeling to help others start a family. At Simple Surrogacy, we’ll help you fulfil your dreams of parenthood. If you are looking to start a family of your own through surrogacy, contact us toll-free at 1-866-41-SURRO or visit our website to learn more about surrogacy and what the process entails today!
If you have made the decision to become an egg donor, you most likely have chosen to do so based on your strong feelings of empathy for parents longing to start a family. Besides the donating portion of the process, when you register to become an egg donor you will be required to give information on yourself, including a personal description and a goodwill message.
What’s the purpose of a goodwill message?
The purpose of a goodwill message is to let the child who was born from your donation, get to know you on a personal level. When the donor conceived child turns 16 they can ask for non-identifying information about you, the donor, and once they turn 18 they can ask for identifying information, which includes the goodwill message.
How to write a goodwill message?
Finding the words and knowing where to begin can be difficult. You’re creating a message for a young adult, who you have never met, but have had a great influence on. Put yourself in the teenager’s position, what would they want to know about you? They most likely want to get a feel for who you are rather than just facts on you.
What to put in a goodwill message?
Keep in mind that you want to keep your message honest. This is your chance to introduce yourself. The goal is to convey a sense of you as a person. Share your story of why you decided to become an egg donor, explain to them how grateful you are to have been part of this journey, and how amazing it was to have the chance to help a couple realize their dream of becoming parents.
How personal to make the goodwill message?
If you wish you can also include comments about your personality traits or DNA features to really describe your identity and personality. At the end of the day, it is ultimately your choice of how much information you would like to share, whether your message is short and sweet, long and detailed, put the effort in making your goodwill message meaningful, helpful and inspiring. The teenager reading your message will feel fulfilled and grateful.
If you have any questions about becoming an egg donor, or writing a goodwill message, don’t hesitate to contact the experts! Our team at Simple Surrogacy will be happy to answer your questions and get you started on your egg donation journey.
Egg Donors Are Young
When it comes to egg donation, donors are typically young. Donor eggs reduce the number of potential complications that are often found in pregnancy as women age. At Simple Donations, we request that donors be between the ages of 21-30. We enforce a minimum age limit to ensure healthy fertility. In addition, by the age of 21 women are entitled to legally enter into a contract. At this age, women understand more in terms of the level of commitment and responsibility that they are undertaking.
Level of Commitment
Compared to sperm donation, where a donation can happen quickly, egg donation is a long time commitment. Women don’t possess thousands of eggs, which can be freely given at any point and time. They must prepare themselves physically – meaning that they must take medication for a period of six to eight weeks. In addition, in order to stimulate egg development, a donor is required to take hormones and they must be willing to abstain from intercourse during the egg donation process – typically one month.
The Child Will Most Likely Never Meet Their Egg Donor
Moreover, it is uncommon for Intended Parents to request meeting their egg donor. Individuals who make the decision to donate their eggs usually are young women who hope to have their own children one day. Similar to donating blood, when it comes to becoming an egg donor, women donate because they are happy to help those in need and are willing to forgo any feelings of kinship attached to their donation.
Helps a Large Range of Women Become Mothers
Lastly, did you know that the decision to embark on egg donation helps thousands of women in the world who are unable to conceive on their own? Each day millions of women find out that they must face the reality of their infertility. It takes a kind and selfless individual to help another couple start a family of their own.
If you’re contemplating pursuing egg donation or know someone who is, make sure to read more about the subject. If you are considering fulfilling your dreams of parenthood through egg donation, contact Simple Donations today to get started and to learn more about what the process entails.
When a woman decides to become a surrogate mother, she is taking on a great responsibility and is preparing herself for a beautiful and emotional journey. If you are a surrogate mother and are feeling a little nervous about the process and think that you may need some additional support, consider using a Doula.
A Doula is trained to assist during childbirth, and will provide support to the family after the baby is born. Ultimately, it is your choice to bring a Doula onto your journey. Many surrogate mothers do choose to use a Doula as there are excellent benefits to having one.
Doula’s Contribution to the Labor
Labor is a critical time and Doulas can offer crucial support during this moment. A Doula offers the necessary support to the surrogate mother when labor begins. She can provide support through comforting the mother as well as providing emotional support. A Doula is also responsible for facilitating communication with the care providers to ensure the mother is taken care of properly.
Additional Roles of a Doula
A Doula can play a number of different roles during the labor. This makes the process easier on the surrogate mother. The Doula will speak to the medical staff, provide pain management methods, birthing positions, and teach a number of relaxation techniques. All of this will help minimize the surrogate’s stress and will overall help create a better delivery experience.
What the Intended Parents can Gain from a Doula
Not only does the surrogate mother benefit from a Doula but so do the intended parents. Doula’s can further offer postpartum support to the intended parents, which helps their transition into parenthood. A Doula can help get the bonding process started between the intended parents and the baby. A Doula can also provide support on certain difficult matters that may arise through the transition.
Using a Doula is not mandatory if you are becoming a surrogate mother. Surrogacy can become an emotional rollercoaster. Therefore receiving a little extra support, attention and care is encouraged. A Doula will simply make this experience stress free for both the surrogate mother and intended parents. Make this experience a positive one, speak to Simple Surrogacy to get additional information on Doulas today!
Many parents find the conversation about birth and where babies come from to be an uncomfortable discussion to have with their children. This topic may be difficult to talk about at first, but telling the truth and being honest with your children is always the best solution.
If your child’s birth story involves surrogacy, the conversation can be more overwhelming. However, surrogacy is an important part of your child’s story. Many people agree that it is important to be honest with how your child was born, as surrogacy is a significant part of them.
There are many reasons to talk to your child openly and honestly about surrogacy. Here are some tips for introducing and discussing this topic with your loved one.
- A heavy burden is placed on intended parents, as well as friends and family members to conceal the surrogacy story
- Lying or failing to tell the truth about your child’s story can create issues of shame, guilt and distrust, as well as a negative view of surrogacy
- Lastly, donor-conceived children risk receiving inaccurate medical information if they don’t have access to their donor’s family medical history
When and How to tell your Child’s Surrogacy Story
Many intended parents recognize the importance of explaining surrogacy to their child. The hard part however is how to approach the topic.
Some put off this conversation until their child is old enough to understand. However, waiting to tell them can have negative consequences. It is recommended that you talk about your surrogacy experience with your child immediately. Very young children are often the most open-minded and are able to process this information.
Preparing to Talk about Surrogacy
Intended parents sometimes need help to tell the story in an age-appropriate way. Start preparing to tell their story even before they are born. Gather information about the surrogacy process and your personal journey with it. Take pictures and document the process of the pregnancy. This way your child will have visuals and understand everyone that was involved in creating their life.
When your baby is born, begin telling them their story as an infant, even though they may not understand. The more practice you have telling it, the more comfortable you will be when your child is ready to really hear their story.
Treat this storytelling process as an ongoing conversation rather than a one- time discussion. Your child’s surrogacy story is a story that you as parents should be proud and honored to share. The more information you can give to your child the more they will understand and value their story as much as you do! If you have any questions about the surrogacy process, don’t hesitate to contact Simple Surrogacy today!
With the help of egg donation, hundreds of individuals are now able to start families of their own. It takes an extraordinary and caring woman to consider giving such an enormous gift. What seemed like an impossible task is now achievable with this alternative path to parenthood.
Becoming an egg donor is not an easy decision. When women make the decision to become an egg donor, it is usually under anonymous circumstances. However, some women actually request to meet the Intended Parents. Take a look at some of the rewarding benefits of becoming a known donor:
Involvement in the Child’s Life
To start, depending on the arrangement that you have with the Intended Parents, becoming a known donor is an amazing opportunity to be involved in the child’s life. Whether through photos, videos, live chats, or in person visitations – you’ll be able to witness the child grow up and develop an unbreakable biological bond with the baby.
Develop a Relationship with the Intended Parents
Additionally, making the decision to become a known donor enables you to develop a long-lasting relationship with the Intended Parents. This relationship continues into life, beyond the pregnancy and does not end after the donation process occurs. Moreover, not only will you walk away knowing you’ve helped a couple in need, you could also potentially walk away with a life long friendship.
Furthermore, before becoming a parent yourself, becoming a known egg donor enables you to learn more about the basics of parenting first hand. You’ll also get to learn more about various fertility options and you’ll have the opportunity to learn more about your own body. This is very beneficial to those women who have yet to bear their own children as it allows them to gain parenting experience without full committed responsibility.
Lastly, being able to witness a couple achieve their dreams of parenthood through your selfless act is an indescribable feeling. Seeing how your generosity had the ability to complete a family is a rewarding experience on its own.
Known donation is not for everybody, but it is something you should definitely keep in mind. If you are thinking about becoming an egg donor, visit Simple Donations today to see if you’re qualified and to learn about what the process entails.
Whether you’re a surrogate or going through a traditional pregnancy, after nine months of carrying the baby, your next step is the delivery. This exciting part can be surreal and go by quickly, so it’s important to have all the essentials ready to go. This includes everything that you’ll need during the labor and birth, and for after the baby is born.
It is good to have a bag packed by the time you are approximately 36 weeks pregnant. Hospitals vary in their policies about what you are allowed to bring with you when you have the baby. It is recommended that you pack two bags. One for yourself and another one for the baby.
What Should be Packed for Labor?
- Your birth plan and maternity notes
- Dressing gown. This will be useful if you end up pacing hospital corridors in early labor. Hospitals can be warm, so pack a lightweight one
- Slippers/socks. Believe it or not, your feet can get cold during labor
- An old t-shirt and extra underwear
- A birth ball. This can help you get into a comfortable position during pregnancy, labor and after the baby is born
- Lip balm. Your lips tend to dry out quickly during labor
- Snacks and drinks. It’s important to stay hydrated. Sport drinks are good to have during your labor
- Hairbands. Make sure you have something to hold your hair back if you have long hair
- Pillows. These will make the environment more personal and comfortable
- Breast and maternity pads
- Toiletries including: a towel, toothbrush, toothpaste, hairbrush, and deodorant
- Eye mask/ear plugs or anything that will help you sleep after the birth
- A going home outfit. Loose, comfortable clothes for your journey home and time at the hospital will be needed
What to Pack for the Baby
- 2 or 3 sleepsuits
- A baby blanket
- Nappies. Your newborn will go through as many as 12 in a day
- An outfit for the way home. Something stretchy, comfy and soft
- A cloth. This will come in handy for mopping up any milk that the baby might bring up
- Baby car seat. Some hospitals won’t let you leave without one
As the big day approaches, you as a surrogate mother, or as an intended parent will have plenty of questions that will arise. This checklist will help guide you through your delivery and after it. If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to call your surrogacy agency or doctor.
Contact us today: https://www.simplesurrogacy.com/contact-us/
Choosing an alternative path to parenthood is never an easy decision to make. With the option of surrogacy, thousands of couples and individuals are now able to achieve their dreams of starting a family. Surrogacy can be arranged either through a full-service agency or through independent surrogacy.
What is Independent Surrogacy?
Independent surrogacy, sometimes referred to as private surrogacy, is a surrogacy arrangement in which the surrogate mother and the intended parents do not use a professional surrogacy agency. Finding a surrogate mother without the help of an agency can be quite challenging. In typical independent surrogacy arrangements, the intended parents already know their surrogate and work directly with a lawyer to complete the surrogacy process.
Common Problems, Which May Arise In Independent Surrogacy
What many individuals fail to take into the consideration when pursuing independent surrogacy is the additional support that is only provided to through surrogacy agencies.
Higher Legal Fees
While the only professional needed in this process is an attorney, they often charge high hourly fees, which can lead to even enormous legal costs.
Independent surrogacy can be difficult to coordinate, especially for first-timers who are unfamiliar with the surrogacy process. This can lead to many complications.
Since most parties involved in an independent surrogacy arrangement already know each other, this could affect the prior relationship that the surrogate and the intended parents had. Disagreements are likely to emerge which can lead to a stressful environment during the pregnancy.
Lack of Emotional Support
Without the presence of a surrogacy agency, surrogates and intended parents miss out on the contact and counselling services. This limits both parties from obtaining the emotional support they need.
Why You Should Use A Surrogacy Agency
Simple Surrogacy is a full service agency. At our clinic, we’ll help safely and efficiently guide you through the surrogacy process. Take a look at how:
At an agency, you can guarantee you’ll gain support and guidance throughout the entire process. From legal work to social support, if any issues arise, you can ensure a team of trusted professionals will help.
Surrogacy and reproductive laws differ depending on the state you and the surrogate reside in and are constantly changing. With an agency, you can ensure that you will have trusted representation of your case to avoid any illegal mishaps from occurring.
Through the extensive screening process offered at a surrogacy agency, you’ll learn about the personal, medical, and criminal backgrounds of both the intended parents and the surrogate. This is to ensure the safety and future of the child.
If you have any additional questions or concerns regarding your path to parenthood, do not hesitate to contact us today!